I just saw a tweet that read:

“Morning side pieces. If he doesn’t leave his woman for you, he’s not as into you as you think. And he sure don’t respect you.”

Bass ackward thinking at it finest. A man, after having a relationship with two women simultaneously, only respects the second if he leaves the first for her? Never mind respecting the himself, first woman, or THEIR relationship enough to not carry on a second relationship. No, this is about respecting the “side piece”.

Apparently being referred to as a “side piece” is a title of merit with expectations of fidelity, trust, and honor.

Being second is never being number one. Respect must begin with self. We cannot expect others to end respectful where we did not set the precedent. How do you expect someone to make you a priority when you willingly accepted being an option?

This is what I would have tweeted, save the 140 character count:

Good morning, ladies. If a man wants to begin a relationship with you, while he is committed to another, he does not respect you. RUN. You deserve more. Respect yourself by not settling for the one who is there, but only when he’s not with her. The one who is into you as much as you think and respects you, is mature enough to have eyes for only you. He is out there, waiting for you to leave Mr. Right Now.

Love,

Sea

As you may have seen, at the end of May, beginning of June 2011 I started a series entitled, “Complaints to Thanks”.  This series was supposed to span 30 days where I challenged myself to turn my negative thoughts positive.  I reached day 13 and my posts came to a screeching halt.  So, what happened?

I didn’t have any more material.  I started looking at the bigger picture and seeing those small issues for what they were, small.  I placed all the wonderful things about my life foremost in my mind and pushed the minutia to the back.  The more I focused on all the reasons I had to enjoy life, the less I could think of reasons why I shouldn’t.

I cannot say that I am completely complaint free.  However, when a complaint arises in my mind, I can immediately counter with an affirmation of gratitude.

I am thankful for the ability to learn, grow and share with you all my life and the lessons it has taught me.  I pray that as you read my posts your eyes will be opened to more of the beauty that surrounds you.  Every day is a special gift, open and enjoy.

I recently went home to spend time with my family during the holidays.  While there I took a mini walking tour and snapped a few pics.  Here are my favorites for your pleasure.